Will it hit you in the face when you are in your 50’s?
It is very easy to create a life-long excuse based belief system that whatever happens to us is just fate, just our life, playing out its’ natural course.
This type of resignation is a great way to not take any action or make changes, albeit difficult ones at times.
It is a way of passing the buck – “well it isn’t my fault, what can you do, that’s life,” and it is something that if we do not correct it will serve to not only dismantle any chance of change in our lives, but we will also pass that on to our kids.
We may not see this behaviour in them right away, because we write it off as kids being kids, being immature… they will grow out of it, but it will hit us full in the face when they are in their 20’s, and we are perhaps in our 50’s – they are just like me/us.
At that point, there is nothing we can do and it is up to them to make the changes we were not willing to make in our thinking in order to avoid going down the same path.
As a now 53-year-old single father of a special needs “kid,” I could have let him settle so many years ago. Instead, today as he turns 27, I have a respectful, optimistic, thriving young man in my life. He is full of joy because he was taught to be grateful and to fight for everything he wanted in life. He overcame many challenges, but in all the lessons I taught him, at the top of the list was to NEVER EVER feel sorry for yourself or think you are helpless or without hope.
It is no fluke that Anthony turned out this way, I did not get “lucky.” There is no such thing. You either plant the seeds and water them for a harvest of good or bad fruit.
What are your kids seeing and hearing from you every day? Do they overhear you talking about how life sucks? Seed is often scattered unintentionally, watch what you are planting because the entire fruit is based on the seed, the soil and the care it gets and nature will work that law of growth, good or bad. It is a law.